The ‘욱(ook)’ Moment

Building a Wall

There are times when everyone hits that point where they hit a point of no return in their stubbornness and for those around them it is like suddenly running into a brick wall. In Korean it’s often simply referred to as 욱(ook), it’s the sound and feeling you would make if running into a brick wall that suddenly appeared in front of you. In the story of Moses and the exodus from Egypt it is seen when after every time Moses approached Pharaoh pleading for the freedom of the Israelites, Pharaoh would listen and agree, but hit that point where he hardened his heart. For Moses, he hit that brick wall of stubbornness and was forced to turn it up a notch every time. Pharaoh even seeing plague after plague affect his people and nation is unable to see past the wall that he built and was unable to move from the position that he entrenched himself in out of pure stubbornness and inability to go back and change.

We all hit those points in our life where we suddenly can’t give any more and simply stop. Where our patience has run out and the only thing we can do is be as stubborn as possible. In most cases with emotions running high we build a seemingly unscalable, impenetrable wall that blocks out any argument, any information and even reason itself. As time passes we return to the wall over and over again and in most cases can’t even remember why the wall exists. Even without being able to recall why we built the wall we still keep it there as a roadblock in our lives making that path inaccessible not only to ourselves, but also to those around us.

Lost Behind a Wall

We keep the wall up because of pride, but really should try to look beyond that wall to see if it really needs to be there. For many of the emotional walls that we’ve built to protect ourselves in the end we’ll see that there is so much more for us behind the wall.

At the moment of creation the wall did have a reason to exist mainly because we had hit our emotional or mental limits. As time passes though those limits change and we shouldn’t force ourselves to live by a poor decision from our past. In most cases to tear down the wall we need to swallow our pride and admit to a mistake, a miscalculation and move on.

“Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.”


Looking Past the Walls in Our Lives

In some cases one can return to the wall look it over and realize that it does exist for a good reason and keep it up or fortify it further. While stubbornness is generally considered a negative trait there is absolutely nothing wrong with rational stubbornness, in accepting the fact that you are right because you are. The most important thing about rational stubbornness though is keeping an open mind to new information that can and should change your views. You don’t need to break down every wall and barrier, but you should always reexamine the boundaries that you’ve placed in your life. The reasons for the boundaries and limitations may not exist anymore.

It is the understanding that you are only right up to the point that you are wrong, from then on you can be right about the new viewpoint and defend it with the same amount of determination as before. Walls don’t need to be permanent and they can more from place to place depending on the circumstances.

The walls that you build around you should not be ones that limit your view and trap you but walls that define you, not only for yourself but for those around you. Stand up for the things that you believe and know to be right for you, but remove the emotional barriers that keep you contained from what you know if right.


Originally posted 2016-12-28 17:04:27.


  1. February 18, 2017

    After reading your post, I sat for a few long minutes going mentally through files I’ve collected over time all stored in my brain. Thankfully, I didn’t find any walls. I saw a few chain-linked fences, but no walls. Chain links fences do act as safe, strong barriers, but if you push against one, there’s still some flexibility built in. That’s me!

    Although I am very confident of my beliefs, I have a change agent app installed. If it seems prudent, I’m happy to let go of anything that no longer serves me. This includes belief systems that butt up against something new another person has been sent to teach me. I typically weigh their teachings against their lifestyle choices. If they are practicing what they preach, I’m more apt to reach thru my chain-link fence and get me a heart full of what they are espousing. It’s all about being my highest and best. In my opinion, you can’t argue with the concept of highest and best. So far, I’ve found myself to be way smarter than a mule!

    • PalHachi~
      February 18, 2017

      Thanks, and I love the idea of the chainlink fence. Definitely there are places that one should probably not go back to in one’s life, but having a fence can at least show you and remind you why not.

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